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AZgl1500
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Posted: Thu May 22nd, 2008 05:28 am | 1st Post |
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Mom's doctor called me late this evening after the sun had faded out to a faint glow. She asked me what I thought about putting mom in the Hospice program or should we get real aggressive and have her taken to the hospital?
Mom's blood work came back today showing renal and liver failure setting in. The doctor ordered that all of her meds that are hard on those two organs to be stopped for a few days while they try to get her rehydrated.
Mom will be 90 come July 28th. She has had a long and fairly good life, but I sense that the end is nearing for her.
Just sharing as you guys are my "family" as my other family is my two kids, PJ and Cyndi, my sister Josie, and my wife Mardonna.
Life and the world keep moving on, and none of us will escape this world alive permanently. Just sharing her life a bit, that's all.
John and Mardonna
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Tattoo Taffy
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Posted: Thu May 22nd, 2008 05:34 am | 2nd Post |
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it saddens me to hear that John, i hope it goes easy for her over the coming days and that your mom levels out again 
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Posted: Thu May 22nd, 2008 05:56 am | 3rd Post |
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| I'm sorry to hear that too AZ, I know only too well how that goes. My mother and dad both passed away two years ago now within three months of each other. They were both in their nineties so it was time, the end of the road and both of them were pretty much ready for it. But it's still hard for us left behind. Funny place life, I wouldn't want to take out a thirty year mortgage now since I wouldn't be around to pay it off. As the aches and pains mount up, and things that used to be so easy get harder it seems as though it's all just preparation for what's inevitably coming. And you know what? I think I'll be ready for it when it comes. I hope your mother has an easy time until the end and hope you an accept it well. Remember the good times with her my friend.
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ob1quixote
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Posted: Thu May 22nd, 2008 11:00 am | 4th Post |
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Every death that has affected me has been a sudden one. I cant help but think you have been given a valuable gift to say the things often left unsaid, do the things often undone. When it is all said and done, probably not much solace, but has to beat the alternative.
Prayers for your mother, and her family.
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Putt N along
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Posted: Thu May 22nd, 2008 11:54 am | 5th Post |
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God bless your mother, you and all your family John. I lost my mom this last March. It's tough, but she had lived a long and fulfilled life. As I'm sure you mom has too.
God bless you.
Don
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lostinflorida
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Posted: Thu May 22nd, 2008 11:55 am | 6th Post |
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The thought of finally losing a family member, even after a long wonderful life is very difficult. There are times that I really believe, if we have to loose someone very close, it might be easier in the long run if it is sudden.
I have had to endure both, with my father suffering for an extended period from years of smoking and drinking and also with my older brother in a M/C accident.
All I can say is that we used Hospice with my dad. The group in our area was the most wonderful caring people that we could have asked for. Up to the final days, they were there for my dad and the rest of the family also.
I hope that you and your family can find the answers you need in your hearts. I'm sure that you know we are all here for you and there will be alot of prayers for you, your family and your mother.
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mightymo
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Posted: Thu May 22nd, 2008 12:29 pm | 7th Post |
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Our prayers are with you. I lost mom almost 8 years ago and we had to make a decision on life support for her. Same thing with my fatherinlaw also in 2003.
Dad is almost 89 and I can tell he is going down fast. I took a picture of him and my youngest son at my sons HS graduation Tuesday night and it really hit how bad he looks. Dad is getting forgetful and I have been praying for patience with him. I know one day he will be gone. He has lived through the depression and is a WWII vet.
He is a walking history book and there is not many of them left.
Good luck with your decision and I hope she does not suffer. Remember the good Lord has it in his hands. He has a plan and we do not always understand it but His will be done.
Paul
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Shooter
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Posted: Thu May 22nd, 2008 12:46 pm | 8th Post |
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Many of us here have been down the path you're nearing. Mom passed on St. Patty's Day of 06, she was 91 and was ready to go. As Paul said it's never easy for those left behind. But you can take comfort in knowing that you were there for her.
I feel honored to be included,(with the forum), as part of your extended family. Will be thinking of you and will keep you/your family in my prayers.... 
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GLester
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Posted: Thu May 22nd, 2008 03:22 pm | 9th Post |
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I'm so sorry to hear this John, for I too know how bad it is to be losing someone so close to you. I was with my father the night he passed away, I feel that he is now in a much better place, instead of the suffering that he had to put up with those last couple of months. God bless her, and also you and your family. You all will be in our prayers.
Gene
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SB in SC
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Posted: Thu May 22nd, 2008 03:51 pm | 10th Post |
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Prayers from South Carolina, John.
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Posted: Thu May 22nd, 2008 04:17 pm | 11th Post |
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| So sorry to here of your Mum AZ,,,, thoughts and prayers for all of you
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redbaron
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Posted: Thu May 22nd, 2008 04:39 pm | 12th Post |
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I can identify with losing those closest to you, my Father passed 11 years ago the day after his 85th birthday and my Father-in-law exactly three months and two days later....Then my mother passed five years after my Dad then just this past November we lost my mother-in-law......On my Father and Father-in-law it was very quick, both spent less than a week in the hospital, my Mother and Mother-in-law spent years in nursing homes, hospice, and home care before they passed...Even at that it was hard on all of us....
Be grateful for all the wonderful years you have had together, the good times out weigh the bad times, and it will never be better just easier as the years pass....
Just know that we, the members of this forum, or as you said "my family" are here for you and your family. Our prayers and thoughts are with you and your family...May your Mother live for many more years and if not enjoy the moments left of her long life.....God Bless you and yours, and may God hold you all in His hands away from harm......
Claude
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Rudy
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Posted: Thu May 22nd, 2008 05:05 pm | 13th Post |
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Sorry to hear that John. You have had enough events for a while in your life. My mother passed on a year ago after long suffering with Parkinson's.
I was lucky enough to get out to the west coast and spend a few days with her in the dwindling days two years ago.
Also got to see my then, 104 year old grandmother in the nursing home where she lives. 106 now. Some of that gives you pause for reflection on life.
I hope you and your family are in a good place with this.
My thoughts are with you now.
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Button Lady
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Posted: Thu May 22nd, 2008 05:48 pm | 14th Post |
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D-Rod & I will be praying for your Mom, You and your family.
I, too, know how hard this is for you. My Mom passed away 3 years ago. She was only 73. A couple years before she died, she seemed very healthy. She was at the laundromat, got dizzy, fell and hit her head on one of the machines. At the hospital, we found out she had minor heart problems and that caused the dizziness. When she hit her head, it caused a brain bleed - a minor stroke. Then after more tests, found out she had a spot on her lung. They couldn't remove the spot because her heart was weak, couldn't do anything about her heart because of the blood on her brain. Lots of waiting. After the blood on her brain cleared upon its own (no permanent damage done), they did angioplasty on her heart. After that healed, they removed 1/3 of her lung. She went through chemo and radiation. Didn't get sick from it but did lose all her hair. She did good for a couple years, then the cancer was back. They had to remove part of her breast, then found more in her other lung. She could not survive removing any part of the other lung. They suggested chemo again, she said no. In January, they said 3-6 months. She did pretty good. She was at home most of the time. The beginning of March, we called Hospice. They made one visit to explain to her what they would do for her. A few days later, my brother came home from Albany. She told him she wasn't afraid just that she was worried about her family. He told her we would all be ok. She passed away the next morning in her sleep. Her love for us was what kept her going.
I suggest you spend as much time as you can with your Mom and just keep her as comfortable as possible. And know at that moment when Jesus takes her hand that she will live forever in your heart. That is Heaven.Last edited on Thu May 22nd, 2008 05:49 pm by Button Lady
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98Wing-487
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Posted: Thu May 22nd, 2008 06:40 pm | 15th Post |
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| Prayers are with you and your family John.
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Posted: Thu May 22nd, 2008 07:39 pm | 16th Post |
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I am sorry to hear this and hope the doctors can help her relax.
I hope you family has gotten to know her and enjoy her, I miss talking (rather listening) to my grandmother reminiscing of her youth and wondering what it must have been like for her. It was eye opening to know what she went thru in life and led to cherished memories.
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Jluvs2dive
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Posted: Thu May 22nd, 2008 07:42 pm | 17th Post |
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I'm sorry to hear that John, but it sounds like she's had a good life. I too can relate. My mom has lived with us for the last 2 years, she just turned 87 in March. Just over 2 years ago she was doing great and was very active, bowling every single day. Then she had a stroke, and started going downhill from there. She's had numerous medical issues since that day and a couple weeks ago was diagnosed with congestive heart failure, so her remaining time it very limited. I am thankful for the time God has given us, we've become closer than ever. She is ready to go though. She hates having to be waited on and really misses her Independence.
You and your family will be in our prayers John.
God Bless,
John
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OnaWingandaPrayer
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Posted: Thu May 22nd, 2008 10:24 pm | 18th Post |
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| I'll have your mother and the family in my prayers John . It would seem you have a plate full at the moment but the Lord will not load us down with more than we can handle .
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English Bob
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Posted: Fri May 23rd, 2008 03:58 am | 19th Post |
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I can certainly sympathize, we went through an awful period with my sister badgering Dad to have chemo, and he refusing, and then Mom being in a home because of senile dementia. And so on and so on. They were in their 80's, it was time.
My only regret is that I didn't make it across the pond in time both times. My advice to anyone in this situation, never miss the chance to say goodbye if you possibly can.
I'm sure John, that you and your family will make the best choices you can, and we'll send you some prayers as well.
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AZgl1500
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Posted: Sat May 24th, 2008 01:25 am | 20th Post |
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First I want to thank all of you who have written in response to my memo. Great words of wisdom and warmth that are deeply felt by me and my family.
Yesterday, after the doctor had called and gave us that "death knells" report, she was transported to the hospital. Once there the ER doctor asked her why she was there? Mom replied, "I don't need to be here because I feel just fine". 
The doctor grinned and said that she sure was bright and sprightly for one who was supposed to on the death bed. Mom told him, "I don't need to be here, you can just send me back home."
The doc ordered up a full lab work up on mom. It came back normal for both her liver and her kidneys. He sent her home and wished her well. That made a good birthday present for Josie (my sister) as May 22nd is her birthday.
So, mom's back home, just a few black spots where they drew the blood and her skin is bruised. We signed her up for hospice and she signed the papers for the DNR orders. She told the hospice lady that "I am either going to be bright and sprightly or I'm not going to stick around."
It has been a long day, I am tired and going to bed. But I am going to sleep well, because my family is okay and good. And that includes all of you good folks who put in the good words with the Lord and caused mom to be sent back home where she can rest in peace. 
John & Mardonna
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