And that's where it gets tricky (pun intended).
How much independence do we take from someone just to make us feel better?
You actually think it makes me feel better to have her in LTC?
Most of us would rather die doing something we love than being spoon feed in a cage.
Certainly your right but Alzheimer's doesn't give one the choice, it is 3 to 30 years after diagnosis, safely in a long term care center or being frozen to death after becoming lost in the outside world. How does the caregiver feel then? not very well I should think, that is if they do have the well being of their charge in mind.
You think I enjoy having her in the home, I am unable to look after her, sure if money is no object one can hire all kinds of help but usually that's not the case.
I visit pretty well every day for an hour or so, I know when I look in her eyes she looks at me an I am sure she wonders who I am but I know who she is.
In the past 3 years I have taken 1 week off to attend the last NASR rally other than that I stay close to home, maybe I should visit less, I don't know, I do know if I don't visit she is always on my mind.
I have known her for 57 years and been married for 51.
The medical staff do what they can to make sure of their health, I am called any time there is any changes, the recreational staff and volunteers are tremendous and have many programs to try and keep them interested.