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When I was a kid, just home from the service, I suffered for years with "survivor's guilt.........." It took a hundred thousand bottles of beer and several hundred fifths of old Black Jack, a good counselor or two, and a great woman, to straighten me out.......

I swear to God I'm getting it again. How can I be this happy in a world so shot full of pain and suffering. I don't deserve it; hell, I never did......
 

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Don't feel too guilty, it can change in the blink of an eye.
 

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I never went to war and I really respect those of you who did. My father was in the St Johns Ambulance in the last one and my mothers' uncle was in a the first and second wars and the Spanish civil war in between.
I am blessed too with having met a great girl, even though my best friend told me to get rid of her as she was too quiet. My mum didn't like her either, ah well 24 years and counting..Only a saint could put up with me :)
 

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Mel,

Don't be too hard on yourself. Think of all the good that you've caused for people in your writing and participation just on this site. Now if that's how you've lived your life than that number is a thousand fold. You were put here for a purpose. You may not know what that purpose is but someone does.

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CJ,
Most of us have it better than we deserve and but for the grace of God we could have been blown into the next world like many of our friends and shipmate were. Last summer I visited the Veitnam Memorial in Wash. DC. Very moving to see all those names.
All we can do is remain thankful and Never allow our country to forget what all those who did not come home alive did for us..........

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CJ, Just like the rest of us, you have been blessed for a reason. We will probably never know why; just accept it and use it to make the world you live in a better place. Deserving or not, it wasn't your call; but you have been given the burden of sharing it with others. I, for one, can certainly understand why you were chosen! Have a great day!

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CJ I feel the same as you and ask myself the same question. I am very happy with my life and know it can't go on forever. Wonderful family and friends good health, etc.
 

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CJ,,,,,,,,, your asking the same big question,,,,,,,,,,,,,"WHY"

Your Mom and my Mom and everone else's Mom had the answer... "JUST BECAUSE"

Keep it simple ;)
 

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I learned after bouncing off a dashboard at 60, asking why rarely leads to an answer. Some things just need to be accepted.
 

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I too was in a war, the gulf and lost friends.



I think because we face so much adversity and heartbreak we become stronger and weaker at the same time. All those adversities and all that pain can be turned around into positive changes in our lives. In turn we can be successful and live well, because we are who we are though, we understand what it means to really suffer and therefore appreciate what we have more and that leads us to feel like we don't deserve what we have and shouldn't be here enjoying it.



The world stinks and that's a fact, however, we can only affect the world in which we live. I call it my bubble, this bubble consist of the things I can affect and the things I can't affect are outside of it. I now try hard to focus on those things I can do rather then those I have no control over. But, I still get those same feelings. I think we will our whole lives no matter how hard we try not to. The question is can you keep those feelings in perspective and remember that it's those inside your bubble now that you affect the most. You seem to be a good man from what I have seen on the forum. Stay strong and good brother the world needs good people especially when it's so shi** out there.





I wish I could say more or maybe I said too much. Either way I understand.
 

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I know how you feel,,,,

Everytime I say a prayer silently at a meal I have one line that is always there,

"Thank you for the blessing you have bestowed on me tho I am so undeserving"

I guess all we can do is be thankful for the good and when necessary toleratethe bad, but enjoy every day we have here.
 

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Sometimes you have to stop trying to make sense out of everything. It is way beyond our comprehension. Give yourself a break, thank God for what you have and enjoy life!

Besides, I know you don't have it all THAT great. After all, you are having to suffer through riding that ST instead of a GW... :D

Safe and happy riding!
JB
 

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CJ,

Everyone's life follows a path.
Along that path are items that are placed in the path for them.
Those items mold and shape the person you become.

To wax philosophical on you.

I'm thankful for the items that were placed in your path my friend.
 

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Thanks for all the kind words, friends...... I'm truly lucky to be on this board, to be with all you, the brothers and sisters of the road......

Some people didn't like the post, or felt threatened somehow by it...... and that was not my intention. I apologize to those that took it that way; I guess I screwed it up......

What I meant to say was: I never expected to be this happy at this stage of life, and, in some weird way, I still don't feel like I deserve it.......But itcame out all wrong, I guess..... didn't mean anything other than that! Sometimes my words take me over,take mea different direction that I intended!

Sorry if I bothered you with it, just an old man's mutterings, that's all......
 

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Mel-

If, on the road of life, Wexy appears in front of you, my recommendation is to "Run his A** Over". :cheeky1::cheeky1:

I can only say that because he and I are good friends, too; well, we were, until a moment ago! :D

I don't know that anything in life is truly about "those who do the right thing get rewarded" but, in terms of you, my friend, I suspect that your red-haired co-pilot through life would agree that you give a lot of pleasure to a lot of people, so....you are "doing something right"....ok? :waving:
 

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I think you are so blessed because you are willing to pass it on to others. Kurt Vonnegut said something to the effect that we are all here to help each other through whatever this thing is. You help many of us get through days with your posts on here. I particularly enjoyed your trip chronicle this summer.
 

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Cousin Jack wrote:
When I was a kid, just home from the service, I suffered for years with "survivor's guilt.........." It took a hundred thousand bottles of beer and several hundred fifths of old Black Jack, a good counselor or two, and a great woman, to straighten me out.......

I swear to God I'm getting it again. How can I be this happy in a world so shot full of pain and suffering. I don't deserve it; hell, I never did......
I used to think the same kind of things, after I got saved, and the best answer I ever heard was that if I hadn't gone through all things I did, I wouldn't be in the place I am. A little deep, maybe...but it makes sense. If I hadn't gone through a marriage to a _______ @#%^*__________ (you get my point!:cooldevil:), I wouldn't have the appreciation of the (usually) wonderful woman I'm married to now.
 

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Cousin Jack wrote:
Some people didn't like the post,
Cousin Jack, I hope my post didn't come across like that. Sometimes in these short and sweet reply's, the real message doesn't always come through.

And I may have mis-read your initial post. I read it as if you were having those guilt feelings come up again from coming home from the war, doing well and being happy. The intent of my reply was only to to encourage you to move on and enjoy life.

From reading through many of your posts, it sounds like you have paid your dues. Given that fact and given you still have those feelings of being un-deserving speaks volumes to your character.

So good for you!


William_86 wrote:
lucky man :)
Not all of us got it wrong... ;)


You are a lucky man!!

Safe and happy riding! :action:
JB
 
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